So, I’m a virgin. Well, not a virgin virgin, but a virgin to HotMoviesForHer. What I’m getting at, is that I’m new around here and ready to hit the ground running, offering up the best of what I’ve got for you. What better way to deflower my virgin column, than by talking about virgin butts! That’s right people, welcome to anal play 101. Let’s get to popping this cherry!
Whether you’re taking it, giving it, or going solo, ass play can be thoroughly enjoyable and totally hot for all parties involved. Fingers, tongues, dicks, or toys – doesn’t matter what you use, just how you use it. Which brings us to the ass play trifecta; the butt sex big three to remember.
1. Communication. Talk to each other. It’s normal to be a little nervous when trying something new, so make sure you check in and that the taker and the giver are on the same page. Let your partner know what you want, what feels good, and what needs to happen to make something feel even better. This means that you’ll have listen and…
2. Slooooooow down. Start slow, then as things relax, you can pick up your pace. Sphincter muscles are fierce little buggers and trying to bypass them with no warning will cause them to constrict and close up that asshole tighter than Fort Knox. And start small. Begin with a tongue (this is called analingus, or rimming) or one finger, gradually increasing to two fingers, then three… you get the point. To help things go along as smoothly as possible, don’t forget the…
3. Lube, lube and more lube! I cannot stress enough the importance of making sure you lube your/her/his asshole up before trying to enter in any way. Unlike pussies, asses are not self-lubricating. Though they may feel wet at times, asses only produce a small about of mucus and sweat, meaning that without the addition of extra lube, it’s going to be a bumpy ride… and not in a good way (plus it could cause tears in the butt’s lining which can up the risk for STI transmission). Both silicone and water-based lubes are great for anal sex. However, you should keep in mind that while silicone lube will last longer than water-based, you can’t use silicone lube with silicone toys – it will melt the toys! But there is definitely something said for not having to interrupt what you’re doing to keep adding more lube. I go with the silicone lube for that reason alone. And don’t worry too much about the toys; using a condom will take care of the silicone/silicone melting issue.
And speaking of toys, let’s get down to talking about toys. The three (again with the threes!) most popular types of ass play toys are butt plugs, anal beads, and dildos (with or without vibrators). Most butt plugs are diamond-shaped with a flared base (see below) and designed with a larger mid-section to keep it from popping out. Like many toys, butt plugs come in a variety of sizes, from teeny tiny to bigger than you could ever imagine.
Anal beads are strings or stalks of round beads, usually spaced at intervals and increasing in size, that are inserted into the ass and get it hot by the constant opening and closing of the sphincter muscles. You can lube em’ up and pull them in and out at varying speeds for maximum fun.
Dildos, which also come in all shapes and sizes – including smaller ones specifically touted for anal sex beginners – are great because they can be used with a harness (another column all together) and strapped-on, which for me, works the best because it’s easier to control pressure and speed… and it’s hot to have a partner engaged more physically. Plus, some dildos that are curved for G-Spot stimulation are also perfect for P-Spot (prostate) stim if you’ve got a male bottom.
Remember, everything you put in your butt must have a flared base! There is no convenient cervix to stop toys from getting lost and as the rectum is not straight, toys are able to go pretty far up, move past curves in the rectum and intestine, and become lodged. Nothing ends a hot night faster than a trip to the emergency room. Oh, and no going back to vagina once you move to the rear, unless there is a condom involved or a break for toy/dick/finger cleaning. I won’t go into details, but let’s just say that introducing bacteria from the butt into a vagina can cause some not-so-pleasant infections.
As we near the end of butt play basics, here are a few tried and true tips that hit the spot. Don’t just go straight for the ass. Getting the person attached to said ass hot with a little foreplay will make the whole experience more enjoyable and help relax a nervous asshole. Once you’ve got something entering or in the ass, stop moving and let the bottom push back against it and find what speed and pressure works for them.
This is by far an incomplete look at anal play. I mean, we didn’t even get to talk about the best positions for premium ass access! This can only mean one thing… a sequel must be in the works! Stop by next week and see if I take us straight into part II or switch it up a bit and change gears completely. You’ll never know unless you come back… and thanks for joining in my first time!
It was great!
J.D.
Looks like my favorite n00b did an awesome job taking over for the site. I’ll have to keep tuned in
Nice job!
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